tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post9126594634511545796..comments2023-09-21T10:50:52.425-04:00Comments on Stress is the New Black: The gift of good mannersLife with JJ, Starr and Spicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08314621220679518722noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-70183138549809011992009-12-27T20:10:37.753-05:002009-12-27T20:10:37.753-05:00We always talk about good manners, good behavior, ...We always talk about good manners, good behavior, polite behavior- etc. It amazes me that people let their kids run around like wild things. I just "love it" when other parents say things like- "how do you get them to say thank you(or please, yes/no sir/ma'm)- <br />I always tell those parents- it's not an option- it is required and they know it. I don't want my kids to be the kids no one wants to come to a party because of behavior. I have friends whose children are so ill-behaved that other frieds don't want them to come to events. <br />Some don't parent- they want to be pals.Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09107978473861347142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-68036612729419444102009-12-26T23:43:05.707-05:002009-12-26T23:43:05.707-05:00Thanks for the post Lori! I totally agree with you...Thanks for the post Lori! I totally agree with you and the manners thing being so important and helping our children in life. It has been a real challenge for us with Chianna since she is still just learning English at an age when most of her peers are much more far along with the intricacies of social interaction. But it is an important reminder for all of us to keep vigilant on the manners front!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06772166395449341678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-83677730458383508302009-12-23T09:06:38.992-05:002009-12-23T09:06:38.992-05:00We have been teaching Kerri to be polite and have ...We have been teaching Kerri to be polite and have manners since her adoption. She (more often than not) has to be reminded, especially when she is in a hurry to do something.<br />Please, thank you, excuse me, etc. are a given. The harder ones to teach are losing with grace and playing fair, since Kerri is extremely competitive, and she seems unusually concerned with being the best/winning at everything.<br />I come from a time when children "were seen and not heard" and had to sit like porcelain statues in the presence of adults. I am not raising my daughter that way, but I do insist on good manners. There are lots of great age appropriate books for kids on good manners, and no reason why a parent should not spend the time with their child and teach them well - instead of allowing the TV, a computer, DS, etc do it for them.Vivian Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14901008350652019275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-87897335245030240192009-12-22T09:32:44.148-05:002009-12-22T09:32:44.148-05:00loving this post.. yes yes yes!! it's so impo...loving this post.. yes yes yes!! it's so important. i repeat myself a hundred times a day.. to make my 4 yr old say pls and thank u, ect.. but bottom line children learn from their parents so we must set the example! thank u for posting this..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-13505700629737237292009-12-22T06:33:11.369-05:002009-12-22T06:33:11.369-05:00Wait, you ladies actually expect your children to ...Wait, you ladies actually expect your children to leave their DS at home!? And have a conversation!? Or even join in on the happenings!? No way! ;-O<br /><br />Erin has a DSi that is allowed to go almost everywhere she goes. However, when we go to someone's home or a restaurant or any kind of event, the DSi stays in the car. I absolutely don't understand why parents allow those things to take over.<br /><br />If your child is plugged into the electronics more than the ocassion, that is a very sad statement. Mealtime - at home, someone else's home or at a restaurant is time for conversation - another lost art. Erin has been taught how to hold a conversation even at her young age. What the heck are people thinking about!?Tammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15445009162437948172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-53480349562044809312009-12-21T23:41:02.519-05:002009-12-21T23:41:02.519-05:00FWIW, my mom is really a very kind and polite lady...FWIW, my mom is really a very kind and polite lady, but a little socially awkward. I understood this growing up and it was particularly apparent when I was in middle and high school. It was hard for me to know how to act appropriately socially since I didn't feel like I wanted to immulate my mom. I actually tended to avoid those awkward social situations even though I'm not typically described as shy. For example, I'd cross the hallway, pretend not to see an acquaintance, etc. That isn't to say that I wasn't able to hold normal polite conversations, just that it didn't really come naturally to me since my main role model seemed to struggle in this area. What really helped was joining the gymnastics team and being continually introduced to and introducing myself to new people. It can get awkward fast, but I learned quickly how to navigate a conversation with a stranger.<br /><br />I still think my mom is a little awkward, but she's working as an office manager for a chiropractic clinic, dealing with different people all day long. I really think this has helped her at her age (50!!!!) become more comfortable socially. It is tricky business, isn't it?<br /><br />All that said, I hope I can model and enforce polite conversation for my hypothetical children. I'd rather they didn't have to learn it at an older age, like me or my mom. It's way less awkward when a 5 year old says something "wrong" than when an adult does.tweetershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13003742995803058025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-22734442591633351252009-12-21T23:16:57.660-05:002009-12-21T23:16:57.660-05:00I'm with Wanda. Peter has no trouble with mann...I'm with Wanda. Peter has no trouble with manners (usually), but Caroline didn't like strangers from the day the put her in my arms and we still struggle with her saying hello to adults or children. If I try to encourage her, she just digs in her heels and it only succeeds in making the adult uncomfortable. Like Wanda, I am trying to model the behavior. She's getting better, but I'm hoping she will do it on her own. She's already come a long way in a few years.<br /><br />Now as for bringing video games to a birthday party?? No way! Peter had a friend over for a sleepover once and he started to play on the computer. I put the kabosh on that and told him that he needs to play with his friend, not on the computer. He hasn't done that since.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10014999447222122396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-39556659865848584062009-12-21T22:45:09.935-05:002009-12-21T22:45:09.935-05:00Tammie, I know that this is a huge thing for you a...Tammie, I know that this is a huge thing for you as well and I really respect you for it!!<br /><br />Carol, that one is another of my big peeve's...gets me crazy!<br /><br />Wanda, you are a good mama for modeling good behavior for her. I was painfully shy as well but practice really helps children so much. She will do it on her own at some point; of this I am sure!<br /><br />Thanks for the feedback :)Life with JJ, Starr and Spicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08314621220679518722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-72216216970353619402009-12-21T22:32:43.886-05:002009-12-21T22:32:43.886-05:00This is a huge issue with me. I am one hundred per...This is a huge issue with me. I am one hundred percent in agreement with you. I work at proper greetings with my 6 year old (YES - SIX!!)all the time. She squirms and says she's shy and doesn't know what to say. I've repeated everytime - "just do what Mommie does" but it's a continuing struggle. <br /><br />I'm interested in hearing what other have to add on this. I'll be back to check.<br /><br />Thanks for starting this conversation.<br /><br />Wanda (At Last...)Wandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06645427399530140006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-9404333601498110672009-12-21T22:31:35.021-05:002009-12-21T22:31:35.021-05:00Lori,
I so agree with all you are saying. Anothe...Lori,<br /><br />I so agree with all you are saying. Another manners peeve of mine? <br /><br />I have a friend who allows her children (8 and 10), to bring and then play their nintendos at birthday parties, to play them at the dinner table, and to play them even when the group is singing happy birthday. Blows my mind.Brownie Troop 157https://www.blogger.com/profile/07660225156868730083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10518106.post-49478980690513128932009-12-21T21:51:54.916-05:002009-12-21T21:51:54.916-05:00Wow! So you're in the same place I am!
I will...Wow! So you're in the same place I am!<br /><br />I will admit that I am not perfect when it comes to Erin's manners. My MIL calls me a drill sargeant, but none of her grandchildren or great grandchildren (other than Erin) use manners. I remind her of that each time Erin is told that her behavior &/or manners are not up to par. But when would you like me to start teaching her? At 14 when she should know better?<br /><br />Have I been remiss at times? Yes. I'm sure that I have. <br /><br />In my classroom, the children are taught please, may I, thank you, you're welcome & G-d bless you. Too many of them have entered my classroom not knowing these basics.Tammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10684166003663581486noreply@blogger.com