Our Old Soul

Yesterday, Katie Starr turned eight years old. Our girl is growing up so fast but not nearly as fast as her very old soul. After an amazing weekend of a family party and a friends party, this amazing child floored me with the following statement as I was tucking her into her bed tonight:

She began to cry and said, "Thank you for adopting me because if you didn't then I would not have our family or all of the wonderful times that I have with you every day."

Ethan: "Katie, then why are you crying?"

Katie: "From happiness!"

She then went on to explain that her birthday made her think about her birth parents and her adoption. I reinforced to them both that WE were indeed the lucky ones and that their birth parents must have been quite amazing to have made sure that they were both in safe places and that they must have known that they would be put into a loving family. I do feel in my heart that this is true based on both of their finding places and individual situations.

I love my children from the depth of my soul. They are my life as is my husband and there is nothing that I would not do to ensure their happiness. I hope they feel that. I believe that they do.

As the weekend began, I wrote this poem for our precious daughter...


A little girl was born this day,
as her mom and dad waited.
Life's magical plan was playing out;
their journey was already fated.

That day seems like just yesterday,
although several years have passed.
Love's red thread became untangled
and created a family for this lass.

The miracle of her life plays daily for all the world to see.
She has brought love without measure -
to her family.

She was given the gift of two brothers and a sister in law to boot.
Her newest role, taken with pride, is devoted Aunt to precious LuLu!

This Starr of a child shines so brightly.....
her humor is as great as her wit.
Beauty radiates from this "old soul."
Her love for others never quits.

The name that she carries is Katie Starr Hongshan.
It holds special meaning to us.
We love her like crazy cakes, this beautiful girl....
so on her birthday we must make a fuss!

It's your 8th birthday, Katie Starr;
the day is finally here!
Loads of fun and surprises are in store for you.
So it's time to get it in gear!

Happy birthday Katie!
We adore you!
Love,
Your Family

Another tough day for Katie

Today was a lot more of the same and the newest line of questioning left me thinking that we need to get some direction from a professional. I don't want to screw this up and make her hurt more than she is hurting already.

Once again, parenting is not for the faint of heart!

Do I have a "Real" brother in China?

That is the question that Katie asked at dinner tonight?  These questions seem to always be asked at dinner. The relaxed time spent around the dinner table must be very conducive to provoking sensitive discussion.

I turned the question around with a different slant and asked both children "What is a real brother or sister?" That precipitated a discussion about what makes family, the least of which is a blood relationship.  That discussion would not dissuade Katie from her quest to find answers about a possible sibling in China.  When I answered that there indeed may be a sibling, Katie seemed confused and wanted clarification about the one child policy.  In her mind, the fact that she was given up for adoption must certainly have meant that her birth parents did not have children and that they wanted a boy.  I explained that we really did not know the reason why she was left at the orphanage but that if it had to do with the one child policy, then there may have already been one child and that she had arrived after that one.  That made her quite upset at what she considered was the "unfairness" of the situation and she began to sob.  When she could catch her breath she cried out that "Her parents in China must be so sad and miss her so much!"  She looked at me and said please don't be upset with me for saying these things but I miss them so much."  With tears running down my own face, I told her that she could tell me anything and that I was there for her.  The next statement broke my heart.  "Mommy, would you and daddy ever give me away!?!"  Then we were both crying as was my MIL and Ethan who were both trying to comfort her.  Ethan then ran to his room to get one of his prized Lego creations and offered it to her so that she would be happy again.

We hugged each other and cried together and I kept repeating how much we had prayed for her, love her, are devoted to her and her brothers and that nothing would separate us.  I reiterated that we had waited for what seemed like an eternity to adopt her and that every member of her family and many of our friends could not wait for her to become a member of our family.  I then asked her to remember when we went to China to adopt Ethan and how excited she was to be his sister.

I also explained to her that fairness had nothing to do with it.  It is certainly awful that she was separated from her birth family but on the other hand it was wonderful that we have each other.  She asked me if her friend Mia had the same situation and when I told her yes and that all the children that she knew from China with parents that were not Chinese were all adopted.  This was obviously something that she had not fully faced before because she began to cry again for them. I told her that this fact should not be cried over and that it is something in fact to be celebrated, since there are many children who do not have a mommy or daddy.  She agreed and stopped crying.  She looked deeply into my eyes for quite some time and after what seemed like an eternity she said....."I am so happy that I have you, Daddy and my family. Someday I want to find my birth family."  I told her that I would help her when the time was right.  She stayed on my lap and we hugged until she was ready to move on from the discussion.

There is nothing that could have prepared me for the level of emotion that was stirred up in all of us tonight.  I just hope and pray that they always understand that they can share this with us and that we are their safe place.

On a keeping it real note....I could use a safe place as well.

A Dream Comes True!

Tonight was just amazing.  Justin swore his oath and is now a Florida Barred Attorney!

I could not be any prouder of him.  He worked so hard to make this dream come true and our daughter in law Judy was right there by his side...steadfast and true.  He received his results yesterday and the celebration was ON!

As a mother, my greatest desire is to see my children realize their dreams.  Well, my oldest son did just that and now he has made both of our dreams come true.  His for himself and mine for him.

I hope to get some more pictures once I see what Judy took with her camera.  I am sure there is a nice one of her, Justin and Princess Ortega to be!  I have not blogged in so long but this occasion was worthy of getting back in the saddle! 

For those who do not know, we are also expecting our first grandchild...a girl! 

2012 is shaping up to be a year to remember...for all the right reasons!

Tonight was just amazing.  Justin swore his oath and is now a Florida Barred Attorney!

I could not be any prouder of him.  He worked so hard to make this dream come true and our daughter in law Judy was right there by his side...steadfast and true.  He received his results yesterday and the celebration was ON!

As a mother, my greatest desire is to see my children realize their dreams.  Well, my oldest son did just that and now he has made both of our dreams come true.  His for himself and mine for him. 

I hope to get some more pictures once I see what Judy took with her camera.  I am sure there is a nice one of her, Justin and Princess Ortega to be!  I have not blogged in so long but this occasion was worthy of getting back in the saddle! 

For those who do not know, we are also expecting our first grandchild...a girl! 

2012 is shaping up to be a year to remember...for all the right reasons!

Justin with his Nana and Papa

Justin with Marc and I

The Judges who will sign ir bar oath

Listening

Taking the oath

Stealing a happy look at Judy

Justin and Judge Diaz (who I know personally as I worked on his campaign)

Judge Bob Diaz and Justin Bennett Ortega, Esquire

Happy Mother's Day!

I love Mother's Day! This year we chose to get away over Mother's day weekend and it made it even more special. I really needed special. Life at home has been full of challenges with our new living arrangement and I will leave it at that.

I am thankful for my own mother and my three blessings that made me one. Mother's Day 2006 made this day even more special when I became a mother for the second time to the Starr!

I love you Justin

I love you Katie Starr

I love you Ethan

I love you Mom...thank you for everything you have been in my life!

and in case anyone is still reading my poor neglected blog....Happy Mother's day to you as well!

Changes

The time has come to make a change; not one that I expected at this point in our lives but one that we now feel is necessary. 

We are having Marc's mother move into our home.

Marc's dad passed away over two years ago and it was a huge blow to my mother in law, who had only known life in their home or the one that she grew up in.  She had never been alone and the last few years she had become my father in law's full time caregiver.  He had advanced diabetes that ate away at his body until his demise. 

I knew that losing him would be huge...where would her purpose in life come from?  She had no social, creative or work outlets at all.  Al was her only purpose!

Over the course of the following year or so, she had some additional setbacks and then the final blow...the loss of her baby brother Howard.  Howard was the her touchstone and the person that she had continual contact with every day of her life.  After his sudden passing, we began to see her slip further into sadness and depression.  We asked her to sell her home and move closer but she would not agree.  We felt so powerless.  She lives about an hour north of us and with both of us working and with all of our other responsibilities, it became very problematic to get to her as much as she needed.  To further complicate matters, she does not drive at all.  

We would bring her to us for a few days at a time to visit and she always seemed to perk up around the DD but once back in  her own surroundings she backslid again.

Finally, a few months ago, she agreed to place her villa up for sale!!  We were thrilled and I began the process of trying to market it for a quick sale in a down market.  A couple of months and a few offers later, the right offer came in and she signed.  We immediately set about the task of finding her a condo close to our home and we were successful almost immediately!  We found a beautiful apartment in a condominium with lots of amenities and transportation to doctors and shopping.  Since we would only be 3 miles away, we could run back and forth to visit and help much more.  A offer was made and after some negotiation I was able to get the contract executed.  All seemed rosy for awhile but then....well, not so much!

Over the course of the next few weeks and as we prepared for the move, I began to see signs of her depression worsening and the loss of weight on her already extremely petite frame was shocking.  The final straw came when we went up to see her about a week ago.  There was no way to deny it...this move was too much for her to handle.

That evening I approached Marc and explored the idea of having her move in with us.  I think he was relieved that I came to him with the idea.  I don't think that he wanted to rock my world any more than it has been rocked lately and so he had tried to avoid this decision.  There was no way that either of us could deny the fact that she would need to move in with us.  We agreed that it would be the best for her and that it was the only way that we would see her make a come back from all of this loss.

We approached her with this idea and she very thankfully and wholeheartedly agreed.  We discussed some of the logistics, including where she would stay (the kids Playroom) and some of the parameters of this new living arrangement.  She perked up immediately.

Today, we went up to see her.  We need to finalize everything and do some errands for her.  We made the decision a final one and have decided to cancel the purchase which was contingent on her sale.  Thankfully, the sale has been delayed for a bit due to some other issues so this is still possible.

I am a bit nervous about this huge life change for our family.  The DD are besides themselves with happiness.  They would much rather have a grandparent living with them then to have a playroom.  They are happily making plans for the big day when she moves in.

I am happy that we can offer her a new lease on life but am am quite honestly a little rocked about the loss of privacy and another voice in my home.  My mother in law is not prone to interfering but no matter what, there will be adjustments; on all of our parts.

I know in my heart that we are doing the right thing and that everything else will fall into place.  There is a quote that I remember hearing some time back and it really fits here:

"To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there."

I know that I cannot live my life any other way.

Should I or Shouldn't I?

This is the question that I ask myself every time I see a family that looks similar to ours (Caucasian parents with an Asian child)  and I want to reach out to that family.  Should I discreetly inquire about their child or not?  I would never approach a parent in front of a child who was old enough to understand me but if they are away from the child or the child is a baby, I usually try to provoke some conversation.  I have a couple of motives for making the connection.  The first one is that I am the founder of the local FCC chapter in South Florida and I like to share the fact that we have this amazing support system in place, in case they may be interested.  The second motive is purely selfish.  I just want to reach out to another family that was formed in a similar fashion to mine...period.

Marc and I always joke that there should be a secret hand sign that us China adoptive mamas can use...a secret sign that only we know, so we can make a connection if both parties are willing!  I know...seems a bit weird but quite honestly, it would have helped today so that I could have avoided making a total ass out of myself with a CAM (China Adopt Mama).  This CAM was nearby as Marc and I were having a child free day at the beach.  She was by the ocean with her daughter when Marc saw her and joked to me once again, we needed a signal.  I watched her and her adorable daughter and wondered if she was from South Florida or was a tourist.  They played for a few minutes and then the mom left her daughter's side and walked towards me....it was my chance!!

As she strolled by where we were sitting and was not in ear shot of her daughter, I said hello to her and asked her if her daughter was from China.  She nodded yes and then I told her that we have two children who were born in China.  She then averted her eyes from mine, turned and quickly walked away from me.  For whatever her reasons were, she was not at all interested in discussing the common denominator between us. 

Personally, I just don't get it because I am super open and would never handle it the way that she did.  My kids have known that they were from China long before they could even understand the meaning of the words and they are very comfortable with that fact.  I am not sure if she is not discussing this very obvious fact with her daughter yet, even though she seemed to be about the same age as my kiddos, or she just did not like the fact that a stranger approached her about her family.

I totally respect whatever the reasons were.  We are all different and I respect those differences but sheesh...talk about AWKWARD.....I totally needed  that secret signal today!!

Anyone up for making up a CAM signal? 

Happy 2012 and No Resolutions For Me!

 

I am not sure what it is about resolutions and why so many of us have such a hard time keeping them.  I like to think I have staying power but my beginning of the year resolve weakens over time, I let it slide and then I have once again set myself up for disappointment...publicly!

I have been thinking about this subject quite a bit as we passed from 11 into 12.  The bottom line for me seems to be that I do much better when I am quiet about what I am about to accomplish.  I have reached quite a few of what seemed to be almost insurmountable goals in the past, by quietly and steadfastly moving forward until they were attained.

I do have goals for myself again this year and I am going to leave it at that...they are goals and they are mine; mine to quietly and steadfastly accomplish and there will be no public proclamations about them.

I will let you know how I did at the end of the year.

PS:  My wish for you all this new year; May all your troubles last as long as your New Year's resolutions! 

Happy and successful 2012!

Nothing!

I am loving that word tonight becasue it is more than a word...

It is a state of being!

We had absolutely, positively nothing planned tonight....

and I could not have been any happier.

The kids are asleep after a night of fun at home and our home is blissfully still.

I am going to go chill with Marc, who just got home from a gig and take full advantage!

Nighty night!

Sister Love!

My sister gifted me with something that I have been desiring for a couple of years.  She totally shocked me and sent me her first Ipad!  I am one happy chick, as you can see on this snapshot that Marc took just after I opened that bad boy!

I am such a technophile...it is ridiculous.  The way to my heart is gauged through gigs and the www.

Thank you missy lil' sissy.  You are an awesome sister; not because you gave me an Ipad but because you want what makes me happy just as I want the same for you.

Sisterhood is a gift beyond measure!

Soccer Season

We signed up the DD for Soccer and the practices have begun!  Sounds benign enough....right?  Not so much!

Being virtual twins makes this a bit tricky!  One boy and one girl, the same age, makes for an quite interesting schedule to say the least.  For the next 3 months we will be running to two separate practices, three times a week and then we will have a few games on the schedule that will conflict on days that Marc will be working.

Yup....interesting to say the least....stay tuned!

The Katie Starr Team

Katie's first grade teacher and the Dynamic Duo.  She is the best!!!

What a great event.  We are so proud of what we were able to accomplish with the help of the best family and friends in the world!  The Katie Starr Team will top $10,000.00 when the tally is done.  I just sent the Foundation Fighting Blindness a new batch of checks that were given to me.  We have until June to finalize this fiscal year so we will continue to add to our total so that the research for the treatments and a possible cure for Hereditary Retinal Blindness can go on!  We will not stop until that happens!

Update

I am really tired tonight...really too tired to post much but since I have made a commitment...well, here I go!

Ethan came through his dental procedure with flying colors.  Of course her did...that is just the way our precious boy rolls.  It did not even matter that the procedure ended with an unexpected root canal and crown.  He took it like a champ and not even one complaint.

Like I posted about yesterday, food was on his mind from the moment that he woke up.

Marc took care of that with a big thick chocolate shake.

That made our patient one very content patient.

He was even more content when his sister came home from school and he could tell her all of the stories of the past few days.  I so love the Dynamic Duo.

Goodnight all!

The hurt runs deep

Ethan has a persistent obsession with food.  He thinks about it, plans what he wants to eat; sometimes several meals ahead and basically wants to discuss it....a lot!  This is his thing and some days are better than others.  We understand that it is very much based in the reality of his horrific beginnings.  When you adopt a child who is 2.4 years old and he is completely malnourished, weighing in at a whopping 17 lbs., well, you can just guess that there was and probably always will be...a significant issue.  Ethan never had any real food, other than formula until we adopted him and because of that fact, he was orally defensive and suffered from oral aversion.  There was lots of therapy to get him over that hump.

Four years later, he still has food weirdness so we let him do what he needs to do, to assure himself that food is always available.  When he is really in an overly fixated state, we verbally reassure him of that fact.

He has seemed to ease up a bit about the food lately, not a huge amount but in baby steps.

Today, I saw just how far there still is to go...

Ethan has to go to the dentist tomorrow to have another round of dental surgery.  All that bottle drinking and poor care has done a real number on his teeth and so we are in round two of several procedures.  We were discussing it with him tonight over dinner.  I was explaining what would happen and then I told him that he would not be able to eat or drink in the morning before he went to the dentist.

As soon as I said it, I wished that I had not!

I saw the first sign of primal fear in his eyes and I knew what was coming.  So, I did what any mother who does not want to see their child hurting would do - I began qualifying my previous statement and tried to drive the point home that he would just have a DELAYED breakfast.  He was not missing anything and that he could have anything he wanted when he woke up....I even threw in the option that he could have his fav...chocolate ice cream.

But it was too late....the big sad flood gates opened.  Not a spoiled, whiny, "I want to get my way" kind of crying...but deep, sad, "I am terrified when food is withheld from me" tears coming from his huge round eyes and down his cheeks kind of crying.

I felt devastated and so did Marc.  We calmly assured him that he NEVER has to worry and that he could eat as much as he wanted as soon as he felt up to it.  Katie also jumped in and reassured him...she was so sad for him.  He asked a few more feeble questions about the whens, wheres and whys and finally he seemed to calm down after what seemed like an eternity.

I am quite sure that when we left him to go to sleep tonight, he was still thinking about missing that meal....no fear surrounding the pain of a dental procedure....just fear about missing a meal.

and I am left once again feeling helpless and sickened at the thought of that.

What a beautiful day!

Today was the day that we had been anticipating for quite some time.  I fund raise for the Foundation Fighting Blindness all year round but the Vision Walk is a marker from year to year of how far we have to go.


We awoke to a truly brilliant day.  The weather was sunny and the temperature was a bit chilly when we woke up but warmed up in no time and made it just about perfect.  We quickly prepared the children and gathered our supplies, made a food run and high tailed it to the park.  Once there, Marc set up a table with all of the T-Shirts for The Katie Starr Team and we began to greet our team members.  Family and friends started drifting in and before we knew it we were overwhelmed once again by the number of people who came to support our mission.  We gave out 85 T-Shirts to our team members!!


It was then time to get up on stage and thank everyone for coming as well as all of the sponsors.  I spoke a little about why I have thrown my support behind the FFB and then we had a pep rally of sorts.  We ended the formalities and quickly took pictures.  My dear friend Grace was the official Vision Walk Photographer and she was just amazing.  I cannot wait to see all of the wonderful shots that she took!!


The corporate people took me up to the front so that our family could cut the ribbon and begin the walk....and then we were off!!


Katie Starr, Ethan and their friends took the lead on their razor scooters and the rest of us happily took up the rear by foot.   As I walked, I jockeyed between several groups of people.  It was so nice to be able to talk to so many who came out as we followed the path.  I was so touched by the people who happily walked to help the cause and our precious girl.  I even got some fun walk time in with my big guy Justin and my daughter in law Judy.  It was wonderful!


Once we were done and our thank you's were spoken, several of us stayed around and picnicked in the park.


There were other happy surprises as well today.  Marc's cousins from New Jersey were in town and they came with a dear mutual friend and walked with us; which was totally unexpected.  Also, our dear friends, Ken and JoAnn from Chicago were also in town and totally shocked us by coming and walking with us.


Of course, the real reason that we do this is to raise awareness and money.  The Katie Starr Team was the #1 Team in South Florida and when the final count is done next week we should top $10,000.00!!  I am so thankful for all that came out in support of us again this year.  We were missing some friends from last year as this seemed to be a busy weekend for many but we know that many of those friends will be out again, walking by our side, if they are able to next year.


Raising funds for research is a year round business and although this one day has passed, our mission has not.  The fiscal year does not end until June of 2012 for this walk season, so my work is not complete.


The link is available and I will post it from time to time.


There is no way I will rest until they can find the answers and develop treatments or even a cure for hereditary blindness.  Our daughter's sight and ten million other's depend on that!

www.fightblindness.org/goto/katie.starr

P.S.  I hope to have some pictures posted very soon!

Alone we can do so little;

together we can do so much. 

 ~ Helen Keller

Tomorrow is the day!

Last minute info about the walk

Just a last minute reminder that we are just two days away from the 2011 South Florida Vision Walk.  I thank all of you in advance for any and all participation that you are offering to The Katie Starr Team.  You assistance in this will be funding the research that will one day end hereditary retinal blinding disorders and allow people to live a life with their vision intact.  Our 6 year old daughter, Katie Starr, suffers from a disorder called Cone-Rod Dystrophy and faces a life in the dark unless a cure is found.

Just some last minute items to remember.  The park we are walking in is at Sunrise Boulevard and the Intracoastal.  It is a State Park and they are not waiving their entrance fee this year which thankfully is only $1.00.

There will be breakfast items such as bagels, breakfast bars and fruit.  Coffee and Hot Chocolate will also be available.  For lunch after the walk there will be pizza available.  Feel free to bring your own lunch if Pizza isn’t your bag as well as a chair or blanket to picnic on.  The day is shaping up to be a nice one and many of us will be picnicking after the walk. 

The walk is mostly symbolic.  You can walk all, part or none at all.  The idea is to come out, raise awareness and raise the money for research.  Please secure any and all donations that you can and bring them to registration.  Please ask friends and family if they help with just a few dollars.  It all makes a difference!  Please make sure that you are registered under “The Katie Starr Team.”  We are the number one team in South Florida and we are going to fully represent the day of the walk!  I have Team T-Shirts for the first 100 adults and 25 children that come out that day.  You can also pick up a Foundation T-Shirt at the walk for your collection! ;-)

There will be a bounce house and inflatable slide for the kids as well as cotton candy, snow cones, and a face painter.  It will be a fun and rewarding day for all!

Here is the info:  Please come and walk but even if you can't please help us with a donation by Clicking on
www.fightblindness.org/goto/katie.starr and by spreading the word.  Thank you so much!

Date: Saturday, November 12, 2011        
Location: Hugh Taylor Birch State Park
3109 East Sunrise Boulevard
Fort Lauderdale, FL  33304
Registration:  9:00 am
Walk Start: 10:00 a.m.
Walk Chairs: Lori and Marc Weinstock
Support our team and help bring us closer to a cure because a Cure is in Sight!

Why should I get involved?

I am sure that the title of this post is the question that many people ask themselves when I post about the Foundation Fighting Blindness and their quest to fund preventions, treatments or even a cure for devastating hereditary blinding diseases.  Heck, before this happened to our family, I would have asked the same question.  Now it is all very clear to me.

Let me clarify a few things by sharing a few facts with you: 

The urgent mission of The Foundation Fighting Blindness, Inc. is to drive the research that will provide preventions, treatments and cures for people affected by retinitis pigmentosa (RP), macular degeneration, Usher Syndrome, and the entire spectrum of retinal degenerative diseases.
 

• More than 10 million Americans of every age and race suffer vision loss from these blinding diseases.
 

• The Foundation has funded thousands of research studies at hundreds of prominent institutions worldwide. Currently, the Foundation funds 138 grants at 76 institutions.
 

• The Foundation funds leading-edge research in promising areas such as genetics, gene therapy, retinal cell transplantation, and pharmaceutical and nutritional therapies.
 

• Since its inception in 1971, the Foundation has raised more than $425 million.
 

• RP and Usher syndrome are inherited diseases commonly diagnosed during childhood or young adulthood. RP causes severe vision loss leading to legal and/or complete blindness. Children with Usher syndrome are born with varying degrees of deafness and later develop RP.

• Leading retinal research scientists praise the advances enabled by The Foundation.

• Age-related macular degeneration has inherited risks and is characterized by a progressive loss of central vision. AMD is the leading cause of blindness in adults over age 55 in the U.S. and other developed countries.

That last one is the real kicker.  Macular Degeneration is a blinding eye disease that will show up in many of your families as they age.  No family is exempt from these horrible diseases.  It just so happens that it has touched our young daughter now and yes, while that is tragic - it is also tragic to lose sight at any age.  We are truly all fighting the same battle.

Please think about the many people that will be effected by these diseases if nothing is done to change the future.

“I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.” ~Helen Keller

www.fightblindness.org/goto/katie.starr

Another Installment of: Out of the Mouths of Babes!

Last evening Katie was walking past the TV and saw a report on the news about gay marriage.  She blurted out,  "Hey, that's crazy...that one dude is marrying that other dude!'  "How are they going to have babies?"

Beyond the huge issues at hand with these statements, all we could do was to try our best to stifle our laughter, since what hit our funny bone was the use of the word "Dude!"  I did not even know she had ever heard that retro word! 

Once I collected myself from the hilarity of it all, I responded by telling her that the purpose of marriage was not necessarily to make babies.  Since her knowledge on this subject is sketchy at best, I went right on to the second item on the agenda, which was gay love and marriage.  I explained that most of the time women and men fall in love and that sometimes, men fall in love with men and that women fall in love with women.  I said that love is love and that all love is OK.

I did not get into it any deeper than that... she is 6 and that was quite enough!  I wasn't even going near adoption and gay marriage.  That is for another day and time in the future!  

All I gotta say is Wow dude...that Katie Starr is too much!

Oh and one more thing..now I can't stop calling everyone in the house...Dude!

I am shameless when it comes to something this important!

Whenever I post about the Vision Walk on my blog, it gets so quiet that I can practically here the birds chirping!  If you think that I go on too much here then you should see my on Facebook.  I am relentless!

The bottom line is that it is my mission in life to raise awareness and money for the Foundation Fighting Blindness so that there will be advances in the science that will save my daughter's vision.  I am one minded towards this end...I am forward...I am brazen...and yes, I am shameless!  You would be too, if your child had such a diagnosis.

I do not want my daughter to have to face a life of navigating in the dark.  I don't want her to have it that much tougher than everyone else.  If I can do anything to stop it from happening then I will.

Please help me with this.  If you have been a long time reader of my blog or are someone new, I ask that you donate any little bit that you can on behalf of the this precious little girl and the over 10 million people who are also in the same boat! $1, $5, $10 or anything at all will help our cause.  Even the change in your pocket will make a difference.

"Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much." 

~ Helen Keller

Once again, to learn more about our Vision Walk and our goal please link to:

www.fightblindness.org/goto/katie.starr